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The Moneyist: I asked my family to boycott Chic-fil-A over its support of anti-LGBTQ causes — but they suggested going there to eat instead

I’m a gay man from a family of 10 siblings, and the only gay member of my extended family of cousins, to my knowledge. I have been dismayed for several years now that some members of my immediate family support Chic-fil-A, the fast-food corporation controversial for its positions placing religious freedom over LGBTQ rights. At best, the company’s stance is irrelevant to these particular siblings. At worst, these positions are a key reason for their support.

Some of them have even gone so far as to post Chic-fil-A on their Facebook page for several years now, even though I have brought to their attention how much that hurts me. In contrast to the aforementioned siblings; a couple of my other, supportive siblings; as well as several of my cousins; refuse to patronize Chic-fil-A as a show of solidarity with me and the LGBTQ movement.

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It has led me to the painful realization that the most homophobic members of the entire extended family are those with the gay brother. When several siblings are together, these same perpetrators don’t hesitate to suggest that we all go out to eat at Chic-fil-A. The disrespect has caused a rift between me and these siblings, made me uncomfortable to be around them. I was definitely not looking forward to our annual July Fourth gathering.

This situation has bothered me for at least five years now, and I am unsure how to handle it.


Dear Bill,

I don’t know what’s worse: being slapped in the face with a wet fish, or being slapped in the face with a lightly-battered fried cod fillet served on a warm, buttered bun from Chic-fil-A.

If the last year has taught us anything, it’s that consumers are more powerful than anytime in history. With social media, Americans have a voice and many companies have chosen to listen. For instance, I don’t believe the Black Lives Matter movement would spurred a reckoning that reached the C-suites of corporate America had companies not had one eye on the social-justice movement and the inequalities of race in America, and the other eye on their bottom line. Whatever it takes, I suppose. Perhaps this time, the momentum to take action will sustain itself and continue to gain steam as Americans question their own white privilege, much like the #MeToo movement has done, with heads rolling and policies changing in industries across the land.

But your immediate concern lies with another fight for equality that, arguably, also upholds the ideals of Lady Liberty and the principles of freedom that this country was reportedly founded upon. This last decade has been a period of significant progress for the LGBTQ community in America. Last month, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that LGBTQ workers are protected from job discrimination. The court decided by a 6-3 vote that a key provision of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 known as Title VII that bars job discrimination because of sex, among other reasons, encompasses bias against LGBT workers. Five years earlier, in May 2015, marriage equality became legal in the U.S., one month before my home country of Ireland made the same decision by popular vote.

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But where does that leave you and your family as they walk past Chic-fil-A with an empty stomach, and contemplate an order of chicken wings and crinkly fries? America is a country divided, and many dinner tables over the July Fourth Weekend were split too. Even without that perplexing and polarizing political panorama, siblings like to push each other’s buttons. The more effective the button, the more likely it is to get pushed. You basically put a big red sign on your forehead with a Chic-fil-A logo. It sounds as if they don’t like being told where they can and can’t eat, and they are going out of their way to make you know that. They are giving you a dollop of indignation with a side order of passive aggression. Bill, I get it. That is enough to give anyone indigestion.

I’m not saying that what they’re doing is right or compassionate. It would be kinder and easier to eat there when you’re not around, and avoid checking in on Facebook when they are there. More importantly, it would be more brotherly and sisterly, too. You regard their support for Chic-fil-A as a thoughtless swipe at your freedom to be who you are and live with the same legal protections and social acceptance as anyone else. They, I imagine, see being told where to spend their money as an infringement on their freedom to order a Chic-fil-A Deluxe Chicken Sandwich with 500 calories and 1640 milligrams of sodium. That, they might argue, is their right as Americans.

People are what they eat. And if they want to eat Chic-fil-A, that’s their prerogative. If they want to patronize independent bookstores, they’re entitled to do that too. You have every right to tell them that it would mean a lot to you if they would not buy food at this joint, thank you very much. That’s the easy part. The hard part is waiting for their reply, and being prepared for a response that you may not like. You have stated your case. If you don’t get the reaction you had hoped for, you must let it go. Otherwise, you will drive yourself crazy obsessing over this. Today, it’s Chic-fil-A. Tomorrow, your difference of opinions could be over the Paul Taylor Dance Company at Lincoln Center named after David H. Koch, the late billionaire who donated money to many conservative causes.

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I admire you for standing by your beliefs. You put your heart on the line. That takes guts. However, you are playing God if you think you have the power or the right to control where they choose to spend their money. It’s their breakfast party, and they’ll enjoy their carbohydrates, if they want to. Chic-fil-A was not immediately available for comment on its current position on LGBTQ causes, but last November the Georgia-based chicken-sandwich chain said it would cease making multiyear donations to two religious organizations that reportedly made and/or supported controversial statements about homosexuality and same-sex marriage in the past.

Instead, the company said it would “deepen its giving to a smaller number of organizations working exclusively in the areas of education, homelessness and hunger,” and has committed $9 million to organizations such as the Junior Achievement USA, which fosters work-readiness and financial literary skills for students through 12th grade, as well as Covenant House International, which provides outreach to 70,000 homeless, runaway and trafficked young people each year. Rather than praising Chick-fil-A for being more inclusive, many people on Twitter

— including some identifying as Christian and conservative — slammed the chain for chickening out in the face of a “left-wing mob.” You can’t please everyone. They too wanted Chic-fil-A to do what they wanted.

Will they also boycott Chic-fil-A now that the company has stopped supporting those organizations? If they do, it’s none of our business if they go to Popeyes, Bojangles or KFC

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